This is a hard one to believe at times especially where marriage is concerned. “We both have the same enemy?” It is irritating how simple the truth is yet how complex it is to default to that truth. There definitely is an enemy at work, but it is not each other.
How hard has the enemy worked to distract you from that truth? How many times has he hidden in the shadows while you or your spouse stood holding the very instrument that seemed to cause the wound or damage in the relationship?
Have you ever considered that the enemy will take you out to get to your spouse? What about the flipside? The enemy will use you to take out your spouse? He already has.
Now, let’s keep wrapping our brains around this because it will take a while. Jesus gave us the ultimate example of how we all have the same enemy. He was beaten to near death because the church, (His Bride) manipulated through control, an entire group of people and even it’s ultimate authority of the law. While He is hanging there suffering and getting ready to die, He starts to pray for us….those who hung Him there. He says, “Forgive them Father they know not what they do.” Then He lays His life down for (us) His Bride. He still chooses to be married. He still chooses to see us for who we really are and He is focused on fighting “our” enemy. “Our” meaning, His and ours. We all have the same enemy and it is not each other. Jesus’ ultimate example of not fighting flesh and blood but focusing on principalities and powers is completely powerful, beautiful and is what we should be striving for.
How can you stop in the midst of a battle and pull back enough from your own emotions to consider how the enemy is coming against the one you are in conflict with?
Consider what angle the enemy is using against them? Pray and ask God to open your eyes or to bring His truth. If you seek me with your whole heart you will find me. He IS truth. He IS light. He can reveal but you have to call on Him. It takes practice. It is like learning a new fight maneuver. It is awkward at first. But trying it more and more it gets easier. Then it is natural reaction to what is coming against you.
Let’s just let that marrinade for a little while. The bible holds supernatural truth. It takes us a bit to wrap our natural brains and understandings to catch up or catch hold. It is a truth we must choose. It is a truth we must fight for.
I am blessed to have a husband who has chosen to fight against “our” enemy and not me. He chooses to see the truer things about me. He knows that I am still Jennifer and loves me past my wounds, past my hormonal issues and even past all my weaknesses.
*Now I am in no way advocating a dangerous or domestic violence situation. But what I will say, (which is completely unpolitically correct) is to seek out or pray for someone who is not just going to tell you to leave your spouse. You want someone who can see that you both have the same enemy. You want someone who can recognize that you both need to be rescued. *